A brief thumbnail sketch of my ethical system, Dionysian Daoism.
Amorphous gray blobs
People are too fucking certain of things, too unwilling to admit their ignorance and say maybe. The percentage of reality we can perceive is minuscule compared to that which we can’t. Instead we spend our time cutting up the world and forcing it into little boxes so that we can say what it “is”.
Learn to see shades of gray where you used to see black and white. Allow your reality to be fluid and maybe you’ll have the flexibility to adapt to it.
Change is the only constant
Up down, good bad, pleasure and pain… “The times they are a changing.” Everything is moving along. Doesn’t matter if you consider what is, good or bad; it will be different soon. If you don’t adapt yourself to this basic reality you will be washed away by the flow of the Tao.
Don’t look for reasons look for patterns, batman said
The irrational was here first. Every rational system no matter how complete rests on arbitrary and therefore irrational assumptions. “Underneath our poised exterior we are completely out of control.” We call this irrational reality beyond our rational filters,Tao or Chaos. And you must have it in your heart to give birth to a dancing star… to live life to it’s fullest.
Say YES! to life
The good, the bad, the irrational… you face one and only one choice, to say yes or no to it. Regardless of what you say, it will continue to be what it is. As such I utterly reject any any denial of desire. Desire IS life. Without desire we wouldn’t have climbed down from the trees, crawled out of the ocean, or even teamed up as multicelled organisms. So fucking what if desire leads to pain? It also leads to pleasure. That’s life. Live (with) it. Only once you’ve said yes to what is and yes to your desire can you start doing something about them.
Take responsibility for your Desire
If you spend your time and energy talking about what should be or what people should do you are doing it wrong. You’ve externalized your desires as an abstract “should” and divorced yourself from both responsibility and the ability to take meaningful action. And it’s BULLSHIT. When you say something should be a certain way you are really saying you WANT it a certain way. The other problem with should is it allows you to take in imperatives from other people that you don’t even want just because you “should”.
At it’s most fundamental level “should” is denial of life. There is what is, there is what I want and there is what I’m going to do about it. Take responsibility and you take your power back.
What does not kill me makes me stronger
Contrary to common usage this does NOT hold true for everyone. This is not the default setting, this is a CHOICE. You decide whether or not it is true in your life. By saying yes to life, by taking responsibility for your desires, and by learning from and adapting to EVERY experience.
I am not most people
People are different and to try and treat people as if they are all the same is to mistreat everyone. I am me not you or anyone else. When and if we judge (I don’t recommend it most of the time) we MUST judge things by the appropriate standard, it’s own standard. As such, hierarchies exist and are natural. Hierarchies of talent and hierarchies of affection. I’m sorry but I really do love Timmy better than I love Tommy, I can’t help it and neither can you.
Me THEN you
Out of these natural hierarchies emerges my basic ethical principle… me THEN you. I clearly care more about me than I do you so it only makes sense that I’m going to do good for me before I do good for you. I still want to help you, not because I should but because I WANT to. And so I will, as soon as I’ve taken care of me. This makes sense for the reality of power as well. Until I have the power to take care of me, how the hell is it realistic that I’d have the power to take care of you?
I am the Walrus!
There is no essential meaning to life, just as there is no essential self. If you want these things you must create them. I am my own work of art (in progress, of course) and I am the one who decides what my life means. This is the most liberating and empowering of things. Koo koo ka choo!
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